Today is one of those days when people are saying, “Lord, in your mercy, hear our prayer.” We’ve heard it said before. To hear it said once is already to have heard it said too many times, I suppose. Because people only ask for mercy when bad stuff is going down. If we were wise and a bit more caring towards ourselves and others than maybe we’d ask for mercy before the water’s already passed over the dam. But that’s a big MAYBE. If we were good students of history and honest enough to know our own tendencies than we’d never assume that what’s been done before can’t be done again and we’d ask for mercy in the morning, before our feet ever hit the floor. “Lord, in your mercy, keep me from being stupid and mean towards anyone and everything today.” Most of the time, however, the prayer comes after we’re already down on our hands and knees with a sponge and a bucket of soapy water, trying to scrub away the proof of whatever has just been done. Today is one of those days.
This morning, after hearing again the news of the shooting in Brussels, Belgium—dozens dead and hundreds injured; ISIL has claimed responsibility—I clicked off the television. My head was spinning, my heart raging, and I needed a reality check, a dose of sanity. Naturally I signed on to my Facebook page.
Perhaps I ought to have been comforted by what I read there. Where you can post an answer to the question, What’s on your mind? a goodly number of my friends had plastered the simple prayer, “Lord, in your mercy, hear our prayer.” For 600 years, if not more, these words have been the trusting, crying response of many a nation, many a church, many a spirit-filled community. In the face of indescribable, illogical human suffering at the hands of madmen; from the gas chambers of Treblinka to the bean fields of Rwanda; at the front of the line in Birmingham to the back of the line in Yuma; “Lord, in your mercy, hear our prayer,” has been our greatest last ditch effort to see the will of God done on earth as in heaven.
Like I said, perhaps I of all people should have been comforted by these words. After all, I am a Minister, a man of the cloth, a seer of things not yet seen. Why then did these words feel only and suddenly like an exercise in futility to me?
On the drive to work I called my friend, Bob. “What’s the point? What good does it do any of us to ask for mercy after the dirty deed has been done, after the innocents have been blown to pieces? It seems to me that mercy has a shelf life.” Bob told me to walk gently and to put my stick down. “As for the rest, I’ll have to get back to you,” which is what he usually tells me.
I went about my day determined to follow Bob’s advice. I visited with patients who were dying of cancer, or old age, or both. I played my guitar for them. One 99 year old lady who had an oxygen tube sticking up each of her nostrils sang a verse of Amazing Grace with me. I sat beside a Catholic man who asked me to pray in his language. We said, “Lord, in your mercy, hear our prayer.” But silently I confessed that it felt too late.
On my way home from work I turned the radio up loud and then shut it off completely. I wondered about my friends on Facebook. What do they know anyway? Are they just like crazy old Abraham, with a faith in God so preposterous that he would serve up his own flesh and blood on a plate of sacrifice just because God says to?
When Søren Kierkegaard sat down to reflect on the call of God to Abraham—“Take your son, your only son, whom you love, and offer him as a burnt offering on a mountaintop in Moriah”—it’s said that Kierkegaard got up again. I mean, we all know what’s at the trail’s end! Hell, Abraham knows what’s at the trail’s end! He will stack the wood that Isaac has carried and that Isaac will now be hogtied to. He will pull a knife from his pouch and raising it to the sun he will thrust it decisively into Isaac’s veins. And despite Isaac’s question, “Father, where is the lamb for a burnt offering,” and despite Abraham’s inspiring answer, “God himself will provide a lamb,” Abraham gives us no sign that he isn’t fully prepared to end his own son, that he doesn’t believe Isaac is God’s lamb. In his heart and mind, as in my own, the deed is already done. There is, therefore, no prayer begging, “Lord, in your mercy…,” for what could mercy do now that mercy hasn’t not done already?
In his treatise, unavoidably entitled, Fear and Trembling, Kierkegaard concludes about Abraham that if, on the verge of action, he had judged himself according to the outcome, he never would have even set out from his house that day. “Even though the result may gladden the whole world, that cannot help the hero; for he knows the result only when the whole thing is over, and it is not the result that makes him a hero. It is the virtue of the fact that he began.”
So, pulling into my driveway, I tried not to think about the results of the day thus far, which, given the day’s production, was a very difficult thing to do. (Really, I felt it would be enough to not be paralyzed by certain thoughts. To not think about those whose lives had been wiped off the map in Brussels, to not wrap my heart strings around the families that have been so violently deflated of love now, to not risk compassion for the killers and hope peace for their children, to ignore the fear and paranoia that lately looms heavy in all our neighborhoods, felt unnecessarily pitiless on my part, humanly disdainful.) I would try to be virtuous and begin again.
My son, Rowan, was waiting for me on the front porch steps. As soon as he heard the car click into park he came running over to open my door for me.
“Will you play basketball, baseball, street hockey, and soccer with me?”
A freak spring snowstorm three days ago had grounded him inside for two days and he was determined to make up for lost time. Today was sunny, a balmy 62 degrees outside. We were going to do it all.
Street hockey came first. I tried just standing in place and smacking the ball back and forth between us, but he insisted we both run around the driveway like we were two teams caught in an epic showdown for world domination.
“What team are you?” he wanted to know. I picked The Mighty Ducks. Mind you, I don’t think they’re an actual hockey team, but for a 4 year old, they were the absolute right pick.
“Who are you?” I asked him. “The Mighty Squirrels,” he declared.
After digging the ball out from underneath the car and chasing it down the street a few dozen times, I suggested maybe he could take a turn playing ball boy. He didn’t much care for my suggestion and we promptly moved on to soccer.
Again, standing still was not an option. Fortunately, however, falling down was. Who knew that in soccer, running after the ball and scoring goals isn’t always necessary, or at all? Sometimes, most of the time, running in circles and throwing yourself into the net is the way to win.
After realizing we had more grass stains than we have Spray ‘N Wash for I strongly suggested we try out basketball. “Want to go for a walk instead?” Rowan asked me. He grabbed his scooter and I hopped on my bike.
Going down our street, whenever we went by a driveway with any speck of incline to it, Rowan would turn in and start pushing uphill. The first time he did it I scolded him, “Rowan, that’s not our driveway. You can’t just ride up other people’s driveways.” “But I have to,” he retorted. “It’s a hill.” As if to declare, what good is a hill if you’re not going to go up and down it? “Besides,” he went on, “when I go for walks with Grampy in his neighborhood he lets me ride down every driveway, and Grampy has no arms!” It was the first time in more than 2 years that he’d used Bernard’s handicap to his advantage. I got his point though. Who’s going to argue with an armless man?
There is only one road through our neighborhood. To get back home Rowan and I would have to go back the same way we came. There’s no loops or shortcuts back to the beginning, which also means that the small hill at the end of our street—the one that makes the prospect of heading out on your scooter so exhilarating—that same hill is going to be there on your return trip. Now for you or me it’s a hill not worth mentioning, but if you’re 4 and on your scooter, it goes on forever and ever. And because Rowan knows the hill is going to be there (we’ve been down this road before), he doesn’t even bother to take it on. He just stops his scooter at the bottom and keels over in a pathetic display of yammering.
“Rowan, don’t do this. It’s a hill, not a mountain,” I plead. I remind him of the 12 other hills he’s already gone up and down today and then say something like, “You know, if you’re going to go down a hill, you’re also going to have to go back up it at some point.” From his perch on the curb he shoots me a look that makes it clear he thinks I am ridiculous.
Under my breath I mutter a version of a prayer I thought I had all but given up on. “Good Lord, have mercy.”
Does mercy have a shelf life? It turns out, after all, that mercy does not. There is never a bad time to ask for mercy. And more than this—the best time to ask for mercy is after the dirty deed has been done. When all our disappointment and anger over what mercy could’ve done and should’ve done has played out, and we see just how ugly we’ve become, we turn to find mercy is still with us, and we pray.
“Lord, for the mercy of sunshine and soft breezes and safe neighborhoods and scooters and resting curbs, we thank you. Please hear our prayer.
Lord, for the mercy of hope, of a light just waiting to be flicked on in the darkness, of a shattered world that can be built anew, and the part we can play in making it so, we thank you. Please hear our prayer.”
I hoisted Rowan onto my shoulders and told him he’d have to hold himself there. With one hand I picked up his scooter, with the other hand I pushed my bike, as up the hill we went, headed for home.